The most popular answer to the frequent question on the Internet "How to lose weight" is the banal "Eat less". However, this does not always help, because nutritionists know that only by discovering the true cause of excess weight, you can solve the problem radically.
Why does excess weight appear
One of the most common causes of weight gain and retention is neurotic conflict (constant struggle with oneself). When you want one thing, but you need to do another, or for some reason it is difficult to achieve what you want. In this case, genuine desires may be repressed and not realized. And the conflict plays out as if on the surface, legalized through food (I want to eat — I punish myself with it, because it was impossible to eat).
Another very common cause of excess weight is parental attitudes. If there was a cult of food in the family, if fun holidays and adult attention were associated exclusively with delicious food, then in adulthood she will give herself love, attention and joy — through food.
This also includes the praise of parents if the child has eaten everything and asks for supplements. This is how the bundle "a lot of them — I'm good — they love me" is assimilated. Many people have formed the habit of "seizing" negative emotions, sometimes without realizing them, because mom fed the baby as soon as he started crying. Or she gave something delicious for the child's pleasure when she grew up, often without trying to figure out what upset her.
One of the very common attitudes that a child hears from childhood: "Everyone in our family is full. The genes are to blame." And a person unconsciously shapes himself in the image and likeness of loved ones in order to remain part of the family, part of his family. The reason for excess weight in girls is often solidarity with mom, an unconscious attempt not to be slimmer than mom, so that mom does not fall out of love.
A common underlying cause of excess weight is also the fear of hunger, which is transmitted to us by our relatives who survived the war or famine. Here both psychogenetic transmission and introc- tion took place (inclusion of other people's views and beliefs into one's inner world).
How relationships affect the appearance of excess weight
If a woman has an unconscious fear of relationships with men or marriage (repeated negative experience of relationships — her own or older women in the family, which the girl knew from childhood), fullness can be a protective shield. This includes family attitudes that "all men are goats", "only juvenile prostitutes are friends with the guys", threats: "if you bring it in the hem, I'll kill you" and much more.
In people who are in a long-term relationship or married, excess weight can form if the partner is excessively jealous. Then it becomes a payment for a quiet life: if there is excess weight, they will pay less attention. However, there is another ulterior motive here — in fact, not to change your husband or wife, especially if such thoughts arise often. But there is a strict internal ban on treason.
Another possible cause of excess weight may be a feeling of inner emptiness (more often it is a consequence of the displacement into the unconscious of a large number of negative emotions in childhood). Then the food will be something that fills, albeit for a very short time, and allows you to dull the unpleasant anxious feeling.
Also, overweight can be a consequence of psychological traumas of the person himself or his loved ones. If they have been sexually harassed or sexually assaulted, the unconscious part of the psyche may try to protect them from repeating such a terrible experience by making them "less attractive." With a high degree of probability, a mother or grandmother who has experienced such an experience will transfer this protection in the form of excess weight to her daughters and granddaughters.
